When I first read The Untethered Soul by Michael A. Singer back in 2020, I was in the middle of a season of searching. Life felt heavy, and I was desperately trying to find a way to stop being hijacked by my own thoughts and emotions.

That book, together with my daily meditation practice, cracked something open in me. It was the first time I realised: I am not my thoughts, not my feelings, not even my pain. I am the one who witnesses them. That perspective alone began to change everything.

1. You Are Not the Voice in Your Head

Singer invites us to notice the constant chatter that runs through our minds.. the critic, the worrier, the storyteller. For so long, I thought that voice was me. But the book helped me see: if I can hear the voice, then I must be something deeper than it.

Takeaway: The voice isn’t who you are. You are the awareness behind it. That simple shift can bring a surprising amount of peace.

2. Freedom Comes from Letting Go

The Untethered Soul teaches that our suffering comes not from what happens, but from how tightly we cling to our reactions. Holding on to fear, anger, or grief is like holding a burning coal. It hurts us the longer we grasp it.

Meditation became the space where I learned how to open my hands and let the coal fall. Sometimes clumsy, sometimes messy, but always freeing.

Takeaway: Letting go isn’t a one-time act. It’s a practice of noticing when you’re holding too tightly, and choosing (again and again) to release.

3. The Heart Wants to Stay Open

One of the most powerful ideas from the book is that our natural state is an open heart. Life will try to close it (through betrayal, fear, disappointment) but the practice is to keep choosing openness.

I remember meditating through waves of grief, noticing how my chest would tighten, almost collapsing inward. Gently softening into the breath helped me open that space again, even when it hurt.

Takeaway: An open heart doesn’t mean avoiding pain. It means staying present enough to feel it and let it move through you without shutting you down. :)

4. True Peace Isn’t in Control, but in Surrender

I used to think I could find peace if I controlled enough variables: work, relationships, even my own healing. This book turned that belief upside down. True peace doesn’t come from control; it comes from surrender.

That daily practice of sitting down, breathing, and allowing thoughts to rise and pass taught me surrender in a very real way.

Takeaway: Peace is what arises when you stop wrestling with life and start allowing it to flow.

5. You Are the Witness, Not the Waves

At its core, the book reminds us: life will always bring storms. But you are not the storm. You are the sky that holds it. Meditation became my anchor in that truth: no matter how wild the waves, the awareness that noticed them remained untouched.

Takeaway: The more you root yourself in the witness, the less life can shake you.

Closing Reflections..

Looking back, 2020 was the year I began to reclaim a deeper part of myself. The Untethered Soul gave me language, and meditation gave me practice. Together, they helped me discover that freedom is not about fixing or escaping, but about living from the seat of awareness.

For me, this isn’t just philosophy. It’s survival, it’s healing, it’s why I do the work I do today. Whether through crystals, astrology, or tarot, everything I share with you is meant to bring you closer to that same remembering: that you are not your wounds, your grief, or your fear. You are the witness. And that awareness is where your true soul freedom begins.