Because it’s not the stone. It’s the energy we bring to it.
If you’ve ever thought, “I’ve been carrying this crystal but nothing’s happening…”
I get it. I’ve been there too. That moment of wondering if your rose quartz is somehow defective, or if your black tourmaline “expired.”
The truth? It’s not that your crystals don’t work. It’s usually how we’re working with them (or not).
Here are a few things I’ve learned along the way:
1. Carrying ≠ Connecting
Sometimes we just throw a crystal in a bag or pocket and expect change. But there’s a big difference between proximity and presence. Crystals respond when we’re intentional, when we check in with them, reflect with them, or anchor them into our practices.
2. They Support, They Don’t Replace
I’ve definitely hoped that amethyst could dissolve my anxiety or that citrine would manifest money while I sat back. But crystals don’t take the place of therapy, nervous system work, journaling, or those tough conversations. They hold space while we do the work.
3. Intention Matters
If I’m using a crystal just because TikTok said it’s good for love, that energy usually feels hollow. When I get clear on what I actually want to heal or invite in, the stone “meets” me differently.
4. Relationship Takes Time
Crystals aren’t a one-time fix. The more consistently I sit with one, journal with it, or meditate with it, the more I notice how it reflects my own energy back to me.
5. Discomfort Can Be the Work
Sometimes a crystal feels like it’s “not working,” when in fact it’s stirring things up that I’d rather not face. That fog or friction? That’s not failure, that’s growth trying to break through.
✨ Final thought: Your crystal isn’t broken. ✨
If anything, it’s an invitation: to get clearer, to show up with intention, and to build a real relationship with both the stone and yourself.
Because crystals aren’t shortcuts. They’re companions. And when we bring honesty and presence to the table, that’s when the magic happens.