Stop Blaming Mercury Retrograde, Start Looking at Your Patterns

Because not everything falling apart is Mercury’s fault.

Every few months, like clockwork, the internet explodes: “Mercury’s in retrograde! That’s why everything’s going wrong!” Your texts aren’t sending? You missed your Grab? An ex DM’ed you out of nowhere?

Cue the blame game: Mercury Retrograde.

And while I love astrology and yes, Mercury Retrograde can be disruptive, I’ve also seen how easy it is to use it as a spiritual scapegoat.

Here’s the truth: If the same stuff keeps blowing up every retrograde… it’s not the planet. It’s your pattern.

What Mercury Retrograde Really Is..

Let’s be clear: Mercury doesn’t actually move backward. It just appears to from our perspective on Earth. Symbolically, it’s a time of revisiting, re-evaluating, recommunicating, rethinking and reconnecting. 

Mercury governs communication, thinking, technology, travel, and commerce. So yes, during retrograde, things in those areas might feel slower, glitchy, or foggy.

But here’s the thing no one likes to admit: Mercury doesn’t cause your chaos. It reveals it.

Patterns Don’t Just Magically Appear During Retrograde

That fight with your partner? The delay in your project? The resurfacing of old doubt, guilt, or resentment? That’s not Mercury punishing you. That’s unresolved energy coming back up, because retrogrades are mirrors. Not mess-makers.

If something keeps surfacing every retrograde… that’s your soul flagging you:
📌 “Hey, this isn’t integrated.”
📌 “Hey, you keep ignoring this.”
📌 “Hey, can we talk about what you actually need?”

Retrogrades don’t ruin things. They reveal what was shaky to begin with.

The Problem with Blaming the Planets

When we blame Mercury, we bypass accountability. We avoid looking at how we show up in relationships. We excuse poor planning or lack of boundaries. We push responsibility onto the cosmos instead of asking, “What am I being asked to learn here?”

Astrology is meant to empower self-awareness, not encourage helplessness. Yes, the skies matter. But so does your free will.

So What Can You Do Instead?

Use Mercury Retrograde as a checkpoint. Not a punishment. Not a panic button. Not a meme moment.

Ask yourself:

"What patterns keep repeating in my life right now?"

"What conversations do I keep avoiding?"

"What’s breaking down and what truth is underneath it?"

"Where have I been ignoring the signs long before Mercury “turned backwards”?

Then pull a tarot card. Sit with a grounding stone. Check your profections or releasing periods.

Use the tools to support the pattern, not escape the responsibility.

Final Thoughts

Mercury Retrograde is not the villain. It’s the flashlight. It shines on what you’d rather not see. It brings up the messages you keep silencing. It’s not here to mess with your life, it’s here to make you pay attention.

So next time tech glitches or a convo goes sideways, pause. Instead of “ugh, Mercury again…” 

Ask: "What’s the deeper story repeating here and how can I meet it differently this time?"

Because astrology isn’t just about timing.
It’s about how you respond to what the timing reveals.